Everything I never knew I always wanted.


Oakland is one of these things.

I’m a movie person.

I should probably say wasmotherhood got a hold of me and changed me from a 2 movies a weekend-woman to 2 non-child movies a year mom–but during my intermission I decided to change that.

One of my realizations last week was I need to reintegrate lost pieces of my self-definition and shed those which aren’t working for me.

But I digress.

I’m a movie person.

I’m believer, ala Steve Martin in the piece of cinematic wonderment known as Grand Canyon, answers to all life’s questions can be found in film.


I’m a movie quoter.

Quoting makes for fantastic instant connection (You loved Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure, too??).

Quoting makes for people thinking I’m crazy (What do you mean “Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice.” I don’t understand.)

Regardless, it’s who I am.

Some movies adore upon first viewing and never reflect upon again.

Others may not be Oscar-worthy, yet their quotes immediately invade our family-speak and become permanent fixtures.


Motherhood is one of these things.

The Matthew Perry AKA Chandler Bing AKA Alex Whitman movie Fools Rush In is an example of such a movie.

The movie was pretty bad, however, 20 years later (!) I still discover myself quoting it in conversation.

Some immediately immediately know the reference (I’m thinking of this woman) and others merely nod in agreement unaware I’m stealing words from Isabel Fuentes.

One of my fave quotes from Fools Rush In is this:

You’re everything I never knew I always wanted.

It’s obvious. It’s perfectly phrased. It’s something I also hear others say to me. They may use different words, but the sentiment is the same.

I was reminded of the line when Kristine Beeson left a comment on a Facebook posting of mine.


 …reading comment threads gives me things I didn’t know I was looking for.

It was the best compliment ever and the reason I’m still blogging, writing, social media‘ing.

That’s how I define success.

That’s what I aspire to do and to spark in others.

That’s something I freely admit is pretty rare yet, when it happens to me or to others because of me, I rejoice.

You’re everything I never knew I always wanted.

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Moving to Guatemala is one of these things.

The intention I set for this year is to be more silent.

I’d hoped it would help me see the everything I never knew I always wanted around me and to appreciate it.

Kristine’s remark was a needed reminder we already have everything we require—we just need to be open to seeing it/our world that way.

I’m recommitting to viewing my life through that lens for the remainder of 2015.

I’m reminding myself to be silent, keep my eyes mind wide open so I see how, even when life unfolds NOT as planned, it can be everything I never knew I always wanted.

Now you.

  • Have you been surprised by experiences being everything you never knew you always wanted?
  • Can you name the movie from which the “linguini and clam sauce” quote originates?

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